It is quite a frightening thought or experience to be stalked by someone. While stalking laws vary from state to state, the majority of law enforcement agencies agree it is a crime although not always enforceable in some states. Here is useful information on Stalking crime in the USA US crime report, (type stalking in the search bar). Stalking, in essence, is harassing, intimidating and threatening someone repeatedly for the sole purpose of instilling fear or bodily harm. Any unwanted communication by email, phone calls, of which threaten you or your family members and friends is by all accounts stalking and in some cases when threats of physical harm are implied those may be deemed criminal threats which also fall under felony statues.
How to Protect Yourself from a Stalker?
Report to the police:
If you are subjected to the actions of a stalker, you should immediately file a complaint with your local police department. The police most often suggest that you file a temporary restraining order (TRO) in court against your stalker which the police can and will act on immediately should your stalker violate the terms of the court order such as getting within 100 yards of you or continuing to terrify you in ways prohibited by the TRO. It is imperative for you to know and to understand that the police will determine whether your incident meets the legal threshold for stalking. At the very minimum if the police do not take action you will have established a record of your stalker.
Hire a Surveillance investigator:
Should the police say, you, lack sufficient evidence to establish you are a stalking victim your next option retains the services of a reputable private surveillance investigator. A qualified private investigator knows how to secure evidence to support your claim of being stalked. They will also conduct a background investigation on the stalker to see if they have prior criminal arrests. A surveillance investigator will maintain surveillance on your stalker’s following him or her wherever they go to make sure they do not come anywhere near you. The surveillance can be active for as many hours and days you can afford, even twenty-four hours a day is possible at your request. The information acquired by the private investigator can be presented as evidence in a court of law. Make sure that whoever you hire as a private surveillance investigator has verifiable proof and experience that have many years of surveillance investigative experience.
Inform your family and friends:
Be sure to make your family and friends aware that someone is stalking you. Tell your boss and co-workers and your friendly neighbors. Once family friends, co-workers and neighbors are aware someone is stalking you, they won’t give out sensitive information about you to unknown persons. They will also be more cognizant of keeping an eye out for you. You should always ignore malicious text messages and emails from your stalker. Never respond to a text message or messenger text from your stalker. It is best not to threaten them or call them nasty names because you will inadvertently encourage them to continue their tirades. Should you not recognize a cell number it is best not to answer that call and let it go to voicemail. Never, answer a call from your stalker under any circumstance assuming you know their phone or cell number. Should you answer a call not knowing who it is and, it turns out to be the stalker write down the date and time you received the call and every time after that should make the stalker call again. Never, converse or try to reason with the stalker merely hang up the phone. The police will be able to secure a log from your cell or landline provider of all incoming calls of which can be used as evidence in court.
Get a dog:
If you like dogs and can devote time to care for them, consider getting a rather large dog with a big bark. Dogs are excellent deterrents and can keep a stalker at bay if the stalker comes near your home. In most instances, a large dog’s bark will keep the stalker from trying to enter your home and give you time to call the police.
Change your contacts and address:
Should your stalker know your cell number and regularly, call you it would be a good idea to change your number and only give the new number to those people you trust. You might consider calling your cell phone or landline provider and ask to speak with their security department and explain that you a victim of a stalker who will try to obtain your new phone number and you want to place a secondary access code on your account. A unique password is an advantageous measure of security to prevent anyone obtaining your new cell or landline number. Only your closest family members, friends, and employer should have your number. Depending on how threatening the stalker is you might consider moving and seeking the services of a private detective to help you move surreptitiously so the stalker cannot find your new address.
Enrol in a self-defense class:
Enrolling in self-defense classes will hopefully make you feel more confident in being able to protect yourself especially when you are out and about. These classes teach how to become more aware of your surroundings and what to look for to keep you safe. At times we have seen attendees in those classes begin to feel more secure being with other people who might be in a similar situation as you.